give your kids attention and they will listen to you

Here’s a suggestion I heard that I’ve also experienced. If you spend an hour playing checkers with your kid, the next time you tell them to stop doing something they will listen to you. If you don't spend time with your kids they will wonder who the stranger is giving them orders. This same concept is generally applicable to all relationships. If you cultivate the relationship, it makes the person more receptive to you.

better relationships through eye contact

Look your kid in the eyes when speaking with her. This simple technique raises the level of connection. It’s especially important when your child is speaking to you. It will greatly amplify the value of the exchange. You can see the appreciation exuded in your child’s eyes and face. Long after the words or ideas are forgotten the emotion and value of that connection will remain.